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First Chapter Reveal: Open Your Heart for Happy Relationships by Eve Picquette

Open Your Heart for Happy Relationships 2Title: Open Your Heart for Happy Relationships: 10 Shift Keys – What Your Angels Have Been Trying to Tell You for Centuries
Author: Eve Picquette
Publisher: Enchanted Eve, Inc.
Pages: 78
Genre: Self Help/Inspiration
Format: Paperback

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How many times have you read or seen something that made you want to change your life and relationships – but you didn’t know how? Introduced by two angels, Hope and Impatience, Open Your Heart for Happy Relationships – What Your Angels Have Been Trying to Tell You for Centuries… answers the “how” question. Eve Picquette shows readers how to:

  • Open their hearts to love
  • Shift their lives, using 10 keys—how-to-do-it ideas created with the help of angels of inspiration—to change in real and satisfying ways.

In this lighthearted, uplifting, and beautifully illustrated gift book, each chapter opens with images of the author’s angels and quotes she believes were angel-inspired sometime in history. Readers may also download companion MP3 Mini Meditations available on Amazon.com. They are “Dared to Shift” their thoughts and behaviors and these shifts will improve lives and relationships: • Shift 1: Always Connect to Love • Shift 2: Just Stop It, Really • Shift 3: It’s All About You • Shift 4: It’s Not About You • Shift 5: Give Up on the Past • Shift 6: Expect the Best Future • Shift 7: Appreciate Everything Now • Shift 8: Re-Choose Your Relationships • Shift 9: Handle Conflict with Grace • Shift 10: Love So it Can be Felt.

If you are ready to try these simple shifts, the results will amaze you. Every encouraging and comforting word in this beautifully illustrated self-help book will lead you to the path of peace, happiness, and fulfillment. A treasure to own, it would also serve as a thoughtful, caring, and loving gift.

First Chapter:

You probably would like some magic stardust to change your life and your relationships. You may have been trying to be loving, light hearted and to live a happy life, but it has been less than a success. Perhaps you read something and decide to change. But you don’t know exactly how and quickly fall back into the same patterns, just as I did. This book will give you practical shifts you can make in your life. I will be showing you what the angels had been trying to show me for years: how to shift to love, open my heart, and have happier relationships. If you make these shifts, you will become more relaxed, have more fun, and draw in the very best from your relationships. You will have the magic stardust.

There are only two reasons to make these shifts:

  • You will feel lighter and happier.
  • You will attract people, places and events, which are also lighter and happier.

When you are feeling lighter and happier and have attracted the same, you will find that your relationships have evolved, as well. They will be fixed in amazing ways. The easiest way to explain this is to think about each of your relationships as a teeter-totter. You are on one end and your partner, child, boss, or friend is on the other end. When you shift to lighten your heart, it is like lightening the weight on your end of the teeter-totter. The person on the other end must change, as well. But you cannot control what choices the other person will make. Sometimes the other person may change in ways that are happy and pleasing and keep things in balance. Sometimes the other person will refuse to play and will move away from the relationship. If so, it will be OK. Because you are shifting your life to happiness and love—another partner, friend, or job will show up to take their place. They will have lighter hearts and be in balance with the changes you are making to lighten your heart and enjoy your life.

It would be nice to just ask your angels to sprinkle some stardust on all the difficult people in your life—swish! But, unfortunately, all those people have free choice, so you can only hope to influence them in a positive way. The very best way to influence the difficult people in your life is to connect to love, yourself. Whenever you are not feeling light and happy, just stop whatever you are doing or thinking and connect to love and ask for an open heart. When you do this, it will be like magic stardust for you—your vibration will raise, you will feel better, and this transformation will influence everyone around you in a positive way. The first Shift Key is learning that there is always magic stardust for you. You can always connect to love at any time, in any circumstance.

When I was learning this—I had it all backward. I wanted to get more love from others. But I did not have my own connection to love. I thought if I could change everyone else, I would be happy. As it turns out, I could not get anyone to change even one little bit. I had read many of the self-help books published in the last twenty-five years and become an authority on why I was sabotaging myself, and why my childhood or other experiences might be causing my pain. Everything I learned was helpful, but most of what I learned just made me want to change other people and circumstances beyond my control.

I also thought that working on my own education and accomplishments would make me more lovable and happy. I consistently chose with my head, then second-guessed my choices. I was accepted into medical school, and then chose not to attend. Later I became an attorney, not because I really wanted to be an attorney, but to make up for my “mistake” in not going to medical school. I was mostly concerned with how others would view me. My accomplishments were not from my heart. I am glad for all I accomplished as nothing we learn is ever wasted. But I was mostly operating out of worry and fear, not love.

I later found that I was making two major errors and even though the results were poor – I didn’t know what else to do.

  • First – I was trying my best to be and do what I thought everyone wanted me to be and do.
  • When that didn’t seem to be working out, I often made a second mistake. I waited and hoped that others would change to be who I wanted them to be.

I was trying so hard to do it right and be good enough – I wasn’t really being myself. Then, instead of moving on when a relationship, job or situation did not meet my needs – I waited and waited – hoping that others would somehow change (despite strong evidence to the contrary!).

I wanted to stop wishing and hoping that others would change, so that I could be happy. I asked my angels to show me an answer: How could I love and respect myself and have harmonious and happy relationships, at the same time? This book contains the answers I found. The secret was to connect to love and then shift in the only areas where I had some control – my own thoughts, feelings and actions. When my own heart was right, then everyone and everything around me sorted out with the law of attraction. When I connected to love and my inner world (my heart) was right – so was my outer world.

Our angels have been trying to tell us this down through the ages. However, in the last few years, science is confirming the importance of connecting to love and its impact on our world. Joe Dispenza in his book, Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself, notes research indicating that we are each part of a vast, invisible field of energy, which contains all possible realities and actually responds to our thoughts and our feelings. We can use our minds and emotions to create our reality. The neuroscientist, Dr. Newberg, in his book, How God Changes Your Brain, explains how just thinking of the word God and contemplative practices enhance the neural functioning of the brain in ways that improve physical and emotional health, no matter the religion or belief – as long as it is based on peace, love and compassion. The Institute of HeartMath research shows that positive thoughts actually add energy to our system and negative thoughts dissipate our energy. Our heart energy extends out three feet and more, influencing whatever is around us, as well as connecting to those we love around the world.

Opening our hearts and feeling love, appreciation and compassion have a powerful beneficial effect on how we relate to life. I learned from Dr. David Hawkins’s book, Power versus Force, that we all vibrate on an energy scale that ranges from low vibrations of despair, loneliness, and sadness up to the higher vibrations of hope, peace, happiness, and joy. Further, whatever level we are at determines what we attract—like attracts like.

  • High vibrations —Happiness, Peace, and Joy
  • On the way up —Hope, Expectation, and Contentment
  • Low vibrations —Despair, Guilt, and Shame

Our emotions are based on how we interpret events and what we are thinking about. Our energy or vibration level is determined by the emotions we feel. Our vibration then determines what we attract and the outcome of our interactions with others and our world. So why don’t we all just move up to joy? Usually because most of us grew up learning unhappy behaviors from our parents, who also wanted to live happy lives, but didn’t know how. Unless we connect to love – it is difficult to

break these unhappy patterns.

So no wonder I was not getting what I wanted! My attitude, emotions, and vibration were often fearful and worried or critical and negative. When I was critical and negative, that was the type of experience I was going to attract. I realized why the Law of Attraction wasn’t working for me. I began to think of my thoughts as a flock of ducks flying through the sky. I could say some nice affirmations about what I wanted – that gave me three or four ducks going in the right direction. However, I had habitual thoughts and feelings of doubt, fear and unworthiness. Those twenty ducks were circling or going the wrong way, so chaos reigned. The universe responded not to my affirmations, but to my primary energy and vibration of fear and doubt. Law of attraction sounded good, if I could just stay in peace and joy – and attract that! But I didn’t know how to shut off the anxious, negative perspective. I found that the easiest way was to simply ask for help and ask to be filled with the energy of unconditional love.

I had signed up to go to an Angel Conference presented by Doreen Virtue, but was hesitant to go. The universe knew I sincerely wanted help—when I ask I always get assistance. I usually recognize the angel’s hand only in retrospect. But this time, I actually heard a voice in my heart say, “Atlanta, Atlanta.” Since the conference was in Atlanta, that helped me find the courage to go. At that time Doreen had recorded a beautiful short meditation. I found the best way to get out of my negative thoughts was by listening to this. All I needed was a few minutes of quiet time. I felt the peace the first time I tried it. Later, if I found my thoughts drifting into negativity, I just paused a moment and asked for help again. I opened my heart to the energy of love and gratitude. I began connecting to light and love this way about fifteen years ago, and it has made a profound difference in my life.

No matter what you are facing, connecting with the source of love and light in the universe (the power running the universe) will help. You may wonder how this will improve your relationships, but when you connect to the power of love, you can see yourself and others with a love that creates miracles. There is a power that spins the world and holds the stars and planets in place. That same power is available to you at all times. You may call it Source, you may call it God; you can think of it as delivered by angels of unconditional love or the power that created the galaxies. It truly does not matter. It is light and love flowing to all of us, no matter what our belief or religion. The power is love, and it does not discriminate. You do not have to believe in it; all you have to do is hold out your hands. It keeps you alive, and you cannot turn it off. You can only temporarily cut off part of the flow—the part that would make you fully alive, vibrant, happy, and at peace.

So your first shift key is to quiet your mind and open your heart. I want to emphasize—I am not recommending some formal meditation practice; often, just five minutes will move you up the emotional scale from fear to hope. The secret is not long meditation, but repeated requests throughout the day and a change in your emotions and vibration. You will receive help and see your situation with the eyes of love. If you ask, you will receive that magic stardust,

When you walk in nature, listen to uplifting music; close your eyes and breathe slowly and deeply, your heart responds. When you ask for help from Source or the angels of unconditional love, or when you repeat a comforting phrase, you are slowing down enough to notice and connect to the light and power of the universe. If you ask to be filled with the energy of unconditional love, you will feel your vibration rise, and you will feel better. If you are fearful or upset, you will become calmer. If you’re angry or frustrated, you will move up to hope and see answers more clearly. It will help you with the rest of the Shift Keys. It will raise your energy and vibration and make it more likely that you will attract what you want and reach your dreams. But even more important, it will connect you to love. You will see that everything, no matter how it appears, is really working out for you—right now.

You may be thinking that if that worked, it would be a miracle. It is.

ANYONE ELSE THINK THIS IS A GOOD IDEA?

You are never alone or helpless. The force that guides the stars guides you too.

—Anandamurti

If you want to find God, hang out in the space between your thoughts.

—Alan Cohen

So many mornings I have chosen email over meditation…. I override the call to feel myself—the call to pray, or meditate, or be fully awake. Prayer comes in all forms and each one spoken brings grace to the day. —Danielle LaPorte

Love stretches your heart and makes you big inside. —Margaret Walker

You don’t have to go looking for love when it’s where you come from. —Erhard

You are today where your thoughts brought you; you will be tomorrow where your thoughts take you. —James L. Allen

Everything that exists, … is vibration in motion—and all of it is managed by the powerful Law of Attraction. —Abraham-Hicks

And my favorite:

If it weren’t for my mind, my meditation would be excellent.  —Ani Pema Chodron

DARE TO SHIFT

Shift and connect to the energy of love and gratitude every single day. Put five to ten minutes on your calendar today. I cannot urge you more strongly—try it for a week and prove me wrong! I am not talking about long meditation – I believe that most of us are here to live our lives, rather than sit in contemplation. But we need to pause long enough to stop the negative thoughts and emotions, which are cutting off our supply of loving energy. We need to ask to be filled, here and now, with the energy of life, light and the power of love. We need to take the time to be lifted with the energy of love, to raise our vibration and open our hearts.

  • If you feel you have no time, just take a few minutes in the car in a parking lot. I have done some of my best connection in the car, or waiting for an appointment in a place where I could close my eyes and relax. If I am in a really stressful situation, I excuse myself for just five minutes (even if I have to retreat to the restroom). I breathe deeply and ask for calm and clarity or whatever I need. I ask to be filled with light and to see the situation with love. This has helped me respond and make decisions in a clear and positive way.
  • Close your eyes, breathe slowly and deeply; ask for help and repeat a soothing phrase. I like the phrase All is well. If you have time, you can use a short meditation or soothing music without words.
  • Ignore any negative thoughts or your to-do list—repeat your request to be flooded with love and light and continue relaxing, breathing slowly.
  • Once you feel some peace and love, if you want, you can also ask for specific help. You can ask for clarity on a problem at work; the ability to see your partner or children with more loving eyes; or the ability to see your own goals clearly, without worrying about everyone else. Then let it go, and continue the day.
  • Do not ask for predictions on the future, because both you and others have free choice. You can choose again at any time, and change your future. The angels do not predict the future, but angel messengers of unconditional love or the love and light of the universe can help you recognize what makes you light and happy and help you move toward the best next step for you. So ask to clearly know what choice will bring you and others the most love and happiness now.
  • Note – This is asking for help in living your life. This is not about channeling, predicting the future, or connecting with anything other than the light of love or Source. The Source of unconditional love and light only wants you to choose and will help you follow your choices – Source, angels or the light of unconditional love never dictates your path, you have free choice. But connecting to love will lighten any path you choose, increasing your freedom and joy.
  • Only accept loving thoughts that lighten your heart. If a thought makes you feel heavy or burdened, it is a lie. Ignore it and expect positive inspiration later. Ask to be raised above critical vibration. See all negative thoughts fade away with the stardust of love. Ask to connect to the loving truth of unconditional love and that loving truth will make you feel light and free.
  • Note: Sometimes you will know that you must do something, like apologize, that you don’t want to do – but thinking of completing that task will lighten your heart with relief and you will feel that it is right and true. Sometimes what is best for you won’t make everyone else happy, but it will make your heart lighter.
  • You will receive help. You may get an immediate thought or idea when you ask and open your heart to unconditional love—or, at a later time, you will hear a song or snippet of conversation, speak with someone, or find a book or magazine article that seems meant to open your eyes to new possibilities or gives you a new insight. But remember – if it is the true direction for you – it will make you feel lighter and happier – not burdened, guilty or fearful. Your inner knowing is from light and love – learn to trust it.

 

WHAT WILL I GET OUT OF THIS?

Purpose and Peace

When I first moved to Arizona, I had a job I enjoyed and was living the life I thought I wanted, but life still felt like a daily struggle. I decided to make the drive to work a sort of prayer for help and an appreciation of my blessings. I repeated soothing phrases, over and over, asking my angels and the source of unconditional love and light to lift my energy and give me the grace to enjoy the day and bring good to all I met. By the time I got to work, I was feeling a sense of purpose and a light heart, ready to face the day. I had connected with love and begun to understand that the connection to love, not any external events, was what made me happy.

Clarity

I wanted to find an interesting program for my daughter when she was going through some difficult experiences. I asked for help, and within a few days I got it. On a flight for a conference, I was seated right next to a woman who was part of an organization that did wonderful weekend programs for teenagers. She was able to tell me all about the program. I took my daughter to this weekend program in Seattle the next week. It was a life-changing event and helped her to come to terms with some of the unhappy things in her life, such as the recent death of her great-grandfather. I knew I had connected to love and had received a wonderful answer.

Deep Happiness

You are so loved, and you will find that when you connect to love, you can feel happiness and peace, no matter what is happening around you. This will help you see your relationships with eyes of love and respond to your partner, family, and friends from a stronger, happier, heart-centered place. You will begin to expect blessings and miracles. You will see the difference in how you relate to everyone when first you open your heart and connect to love.

RECOMMENDED RESOURCES YOU MIGHT ENJOY

Childre, D. (1999) The HeartMath Solution, NY HarperCollins

Dispenza, J. (2013) Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself: How to Lose Your Mind and Create a New One, Hay House

Dyer, W. (2012) I Am: Wishes Fulfilled (CD)

Newberg, A., Waldman, M. (2010 ) How God Changes Your Brain, Breakthrough Findings from a Leading Neuroscientist, NY, Random House

Schmidt, J. (2003) Still, Still, Still MP3

Tabell, R. (2012) The Lord’s Prayer MP3

Picquette, E. (2012) “Connecting to Love,” track on Mini Meditation—Shift Keys MP3

Virtue, D. (2004) Chakra Clearing (book and CD)

For an easy click on book list of all the reference books – go to AdvisorIsIn.com

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‘Sleep Magic’ is a tool that can be used effectively throughout life says author Victoria Pendragon

Victoria Pendragon was born and raised in the vicinity of Philadelphia, Pennsylvania. She is the oldest of eleven. Her life has been defined, as are most of ours perhaps, by conditions that would seem to have been beyond her control. Eighteen years of various sorts of abuse and two diseases that should have killed her rank among the most outstanding of those.

Her study of metaphysics began in early childhood as an attempt to validate the lessons she’d been learning from the earth and the trees whenever she left her body. She has been working as a professional in the field of spirituality since 1995, has read tarot since 1964 and created in 2007, Sacred Earth Seven Element Tarot, a tarot deck designed to bring the world community together.

Victoria began training in art when still a child, eventually acquiring a BFA from The Philadelphia College of Art. Her work hangs in numerous corporate and personal collections, among them The Children’s Hospital of the University of Pennsylvania, Moss Rehab and Bryn Mawr Hospital Rehab.

She has two children by her first marriage, a son and a daughter, both of whom amaze her. She is currently married to her third husband, a man whose kind soul has created for her an atmosphere of clarity and creativity in which she dances, writes, creates art and helps when asked.

Her latest book is Sleep Magic: Surrendering to Success.

The author may be contacted through her website: http://site.heavenisinyourheart.com.

Blog: http://blog.heavenisinyourheart.com

Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/victoria.pendragon

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Q: Thank you for this interview, Victoria. Can you tell us what your latest book, Sleep Magic, Surrender to Success, is all about?

Sure. Sleep Magic is a technique that allows your body to let go of old emotional attachments and information, attachments and information that could very well lie behind recurrent issues and problems in your life.

Q: How did you come up with the idea for your book?

I didn’t, actually…my body did, when I was dying from an incurable disease in the late 80’s. It took me almost 15 years after I’d healed from the disease to begin to comprehend what had gone on. I knew that something had been going on, because despite the fact that I was in a massive amount of pain, crippled and wasting away, I’d arise after what little sleep I could manage, feeling…well…joyful. Hopeful. And my hope flew in the face of what my doctors were predicting for me, namely, death.

Q: What kind of research did you do before and during the writing of your book?

Well, the first thing I had to do, after codifying what I thought I knew into a sort of formula, was to seek out folks who were willing to try it along with me. So I spent 3 years refining the technique and 8 years working with – oh, my – a lot of people as they used the technique. The average person got through the main learning curve in about 14 months and most were thrilled with the results they achieved, everything from pain reduction to finding peace.

Sleep Magic is so flexible and programmable that it is a tool that can be used effectively throughout life.

Q: If a reader can come away from reading your book with one valuable message, what would that be?

That your body knows a whole lot more about you than you do. Because it’s the cellular intelligence of the body that the Sleep Magic formula addresses. Your body remembers everything – everything! – that you have ever seen, heard, smelled, tasted or touched.

Q: Can you give us a short excerpt?

Some years ago, a movie called The Secret—See the movie!  Buy the book!  Own the DVD!—ushered into the spotlight that which had not been a secret for at least a thousand years, maybe more.  But to many Americans, limited by a society which has gloried in itself and in its own achievements, much like the metaphorical 2-year-old it is in global terms, this so-called secret was something wonderful and new.  Books on the Laws of Attraction, such as The Secret, have long been on the self-help shelves of bookstores, but now, post-Secret, they entertain an even larger audience and the proliferation of their genre.  Workshops on making dreams come true, once attended only by more alternative types, are springing up in adult night schools.

It was bound to happen.  We live in the land of anything-can-happen-if-you-work-hard-enough, but there is a huge discrepancy here.  We are raised, in America, to believe that we can have it all.  Are we supposed to “have it all?” Does that not smack seriously of greed?

The fact is that most of us live modest lives filled with everyday achievements, joys, distractions, and distresses.  Most of us do not own billion-dollar businesses.  Most of us are not celebrities.  Most of us do not own four houses, a private jet, and a garage full of antique cars.  Yet this is what we, as Americans, tend to equate with success.  Consequently, most of us think of ourselves as not being successful; The Secret that was not really a secret fell on fertile ground—promising, promising, promising.

There is no information in The Secret that cannot be found in Napoleon Hill’s Think and Grow Rich written about a hundred years before or for that matter in the works of James Allen, author of As a Man Thinketh and many other older, less flashy tomes.  The bottom line in all these books is always persistence and a positive, focused attitude, and if that worked for everyone as well as it worked for the people about whom these books have been written, then a whole lot more of us should be perfect pictures of the American success story.  There is a reason that there are countless books on achieving success in this quintessentially American way, and that is because the same type of people keep buying the books—well-meaning people hoping for the bigger and better life.  These books are all variations on a theme and the theme itself is, for the most part, a myth.  This myth is handed down from generation to generation.

Q: In your own experience, is it hard to get a nonfiction book published today?  How did you do it?

Yes, it is difficult. But it is difficult to get almost anything published. I just finished listening to Janet Evanovitch talking about how it took her 10 years of writing and submitting, writing and submitting to get anything published. Persistence is the key. Always.

Q: What’s a typical day like for you?

I’m a very regimented person by nature so this is easy to describe. After waking and preparing the cards for my daily tarot blog, I do either yoga or Pilates, depending on the day; check Email and post the tarot blog while sipping a warm beverage; have breakfast part 1 while reading whatever book I’m enjoying. After that I alternate between creating art – I’m also a professional, exhibiting artist – marketing myself and The Little Chakra Shop, writing, and eating small meals. I do this until I simply cannot think anymore after which I prepare for bed, sit down with my beloved husband and watch whatever movie he wants until one of the two of us can’t keep our eyes open anymore.

I love it.

Q: What’s next for you?

I’m playing around with death. For many, many years I was a spiritual counselor and sat with folks who were dying…and, of course, I’d come perilously close to doing the same myself. But people in the final stages of life are amazingly open…you can communicate without saying a word. It’s quite wonderful…and I feel strongly that most people have very negative feelings around the idea of death, certainly many people I sat with did. It – death – shouldn’t be a scary thing. It’s natural. And there’s no avoiding it, after all, so I’d like to explore that.

Q: Thank you so much for this interview, Victoria. We wish you much success!

And I wish the same for you…thank you so much!

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When Dreams Become Reality by Darlene Mahon and Peggy Vasquez

We have two special guests today! Darlene Mahon and Peggy Vasquez, co-authors of Judi Moreo’s motivational self-help anthology, Life Choices: Putting the Pieces Together (Turning Point International) are here to talk about when dreams become reality.

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Darlene: “I’ve been telling stories since the time I could speak!  Just ask my parents!  My sister and I would make up stories and tell them to our cousins.  We would dream of becoming talk show hosts so we could tell the world our stories and hear others’ stories as well.  The dream of becoming an author was always there waiting for a door to open.”

Peggy: “Every since I can remember I wanted to be an author.  While growing up one of my favorite things was “playing school” with my friends and sisters.  Of course I was always the teacher.  I loved leading the class through activities and assignments.  My other favorite activity was writing.  My friend and I would write stories and imagine we were published authors.  I loved writing so much that I kept a journal all through junior high and high school.  I need to get the trunk out of my mother’s garage and dust off those old journals . . . who knows, maybe that will be the catalyst for my next book.”

Darlene & Peggy: “You may call it daydreaming…I call it making plans.”  Peggy Vasquez gave Darlene Mahon a magnet with that phrase on it and it is a perfect vision statement for their partnership.  Ten years ago they became co-workers and office mates and soon discovered they had much in common, including aspirations to become trainers, speakers and authors.  Big dreams for administrative assistants.

Ultimately, their shared passion for teaching, speaking and writing led them to this exact point in their lives.  This year their life-long dreams were realized! They experienced their first speaking engagement and first book signing.  They spoke at the national Administrative Professionals Conference to 100 people.  The session was titled, “Taking the Mystery and Misery out of Partnering with your Manager.”  Their excitement grew as they entered the room to embrace the opportunity they had envisioned for so long.  They examined the room and checked the equipment.  They laid out their notes and tested their microphones.  As they were preparing, the staff began placing more chairs in the room.  There was more interest in the class and they needed to fill the room with chairs!  The sign near the door read “maximum capacity 89” however the room was set for 110!  As they enthusiastically greeted attendees they calmed their nerves by focusing on the attendees instead of themselves.  They set their sights on delivering the material to a hungry audience.  The class began and after 90 minutes concluded.  Everything went so well it seemed as if it were a dream, almost surreal.  The attendee’s response was overwhelming and many approached Peggy and Darlene afterward thanking them for valuable information and asking them to stay in touch by sharing their business cards.

Immediately following the session they experienced their first book signing.  The adrenaline was flowing.  As they walked out of the conference, they paused to pinch themselves just in case!  Yep, they were awake and embracing the moment when dreams become reality.

Peggy Vasquez has been an executive assistant for top executives for more than a decade.  In addition to providing daily support to C-level executives, she is called upon to provide leadership and training. Peggy has led executive assistant teams and together they have designed and implemented many successful programs for administrative staff, including: Award of Administrative Excellence, Annual Office Professionals Seminar, Administrative New Hire Training, Quarterly Administrative Development Forums, National Award Recognition, Personality Profile Training, and a Mentoring Program. Peggy’s belief in the value of the administrative professional inspires her to share her passion, knowledge, and techniques to empower others to succeed.

Peggy Vasquez may be contacted at:

www.ActingOnBehalfOf.com

ActingonBehalfof@hotmail.com

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Darlene Mahon has worked as an administrative assistant for over 25 years.  She has embraced opportunities to provide training to other administrative staff over the years and is currently scheduled to train at two national administrative conferences in the fall of 2010.  She actively participates in community theatre, has performed in local commercials and corporate training videos.  Darlene’s compassionate, empathetic presence resonates with audiences everywhere.

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Interview with Judge Glenda Hatchett: ‘I am deeply concerned and passionate about our children and families’

We have a special guest today!  Judge Glenda Hatchett is here with us to talk about her new self-help book, Dare to Take Charge: How to Live Your Life on Purpose (Center Street).  Enjoy!


After graduating from Emory University School of Law and completing a coveted clerkship in the U.S. Federal Courts, Glenda Hatchett accepted a position at Delta Air Lines, as the company’s highest-ranking African-American woman. She served in dual roles as a senior attorney for Delta, litigating cases in federal courts throughout the country, and Manager of Public Relations, supervising global crisis management, and media relations for all of Europe, Asia and the United States. In fact, her outstanding contributions were recognized by Ebony Magazine, which named Glenda Hatchett one of the “100 Best and Brightest Women in Corporate America.” She made the difficult decision to leave Delta Air Lines in order to accept an appointment as Chief Presiding Judge of the Fulton County, Georgia Juvenile Court.

Upon accepting the position, Glenda Hatchett became Georgia’s first African-American Chief Presiding Judge of a state court and the department head of one of the largest juvenile court systems in the country. Glenda Hatchett is a graduate of Mt. Holyoke College and has been recognized as a distinguished alumni and awarded an honorary degree by the college. She also attended Emory University School of Law and because of her commitment to excellence and service within the community, Glenda was awarded the Emory Medal, the highest award given to an alum by the university. Currently, Glenda Hatchett presides over the syndicated show, “Judge Hatchett” currently in its 8th season (Sony Pictures Television), and is author of the national best-seller, “Say What You Mean, Mean What You Say” (HarperCollins). She has previously served on the Board of Directors of Gap, Inc. the Hospital Corporation of America (HCA), and The Service Master Company.

Presently, Glenda Hatchett is a board member of the Atlanta Falcons Football Organization and serves on the Board of Advisors for Play Pumps International. She also serves on the Boys and Girls Clubs of America National Board of Governors and she resides in Atlanta, Georgia with her two sons.

Her latest book is Dare to Take Charge: How to Live Your Life on Purpose.

You can visit her website at www.glendahatchett.com.

Thank you for this interview, Judge Hatchett.  What was the inspiration behind Dare to Take Charge?

Judge Hatchett: After so many people stopped me for advice asking questions about life changing and life challenging circumstances I thought it would be appropriate to deal with some of these issues in a book that challenges all of us to take charge of this one precious life we have been given.

What kind of research did you do before and during the writing of your book?

Judge Hatchett: The book is based on a collection of riveting stories from my years of experience on the bench and my journey through life. So my “research” was drawn from my world of experiences.

If a reader can come away from reading your book with one valuable message, what would that be?

Judge Hatchett: Dare to live your life fully, boldly and purposefully!

What do you feel sets this book apart from others in the same genre?

Judge Hatchett: This book is designed to challenge us and to speak to the reader’s soul. Unlike some self help books that say if you do A, B and C your life will be transformed, I believe that there is no generic one size fits all answer. Rather Dare to Take Charge is a book that can be deeply personal and challenges the reader to do some soul searching and ask some soul stirring questions that I believe will lift them to higher ground. The exercises at the end of each chapter are created to do just that – make the reader think about their lives and their circumstances in a way that I trust will inspire them to get real about their reality and Dare to Take Change!

Who are some of your favorite authors and/or books?

Judge Hatchett: I love all kinds of mysteries, especially criminal mysteries, which probably comes as no surprise. Agatha Christie’s short stories are still among my all time favorites.

If you could meet any author, dead or alive, who would it be and why?

Judge Glenda Hatchett: Nelson Mandela because of his incredible journey; he is one of my heroes who changed the world forever.

What causes are you most passionate about and why?

Judge Hatchett: I am deeply concerned and passionate about our children and families. Our children are all we have with which to build a new generation of men and women and if we want our children to do right we have to do right by them.  I have launched a new social networking site www.Parentpowernow.com for parents and influencers of children. Think of it as the face book for parents and influencers of children.  We are building an incredible network of support to share information as we work together to strengthen each other in this important journey of parenting. All are invited to join an build your profile and invite others to join the movement.

Share with us a few of your dreams.  Also whether they have been fulfilled or are still a work in progress.

Judge Hatchett: I am building a new production company which I am very excited about and I am doing something that I have wanted to do for years  – write a series of children’s books.

What’s a typical day like for you?

Judge Hatchett: There really is no such thing as a typical day for me. I could be doing volunteer work for one of the organizations I support; I could be working on projects for my productions company.   I could be consulting on a media project for a colleague; I could be attending a board meeting; I could be responding to the needs of friends/ family members; I could be delivering a key note address at a conference; I could be hanging out with my Mom; I could be traveling with my sons; I could be working on building Parent Power Now and the list goes on and on and on…and that’s typical.

Thank you so much for this wonderful interview, Judge Hatchett.  We wish you good luck and success with your book!

Judge Hatchett: Thank you for having me!

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Is Perfection a Myth?

Today’s guest is Terry M. Drake, co-author of the hugely popular self-help book, Live Happily, Ever After…Now! (Lake House Publishing).

Live Happily, Ever After… Now! uses age old, time tested secrets (found in NLP, Law of Attraction, Positive Psychology, and Hypnosis) to teach you how to create the life you want! Ask yourself: Are you in control of what you think, act and feel? Are you living the life you want? Would you like to be happy and successful in everything you do? The key is learning how much control you have over your life, your beliefs and attitudes about yourself, others and the world you live in.  Once you understand that you are in control (and you will), then you can use the 9 simple steps to begin living the life you want.

If you want to find out more about Live Happily, Ever After…Now!, visit the author’s website at www.livehappilyeverafter-now.com.

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Perfection is a MYTH!

by Terry M. Drake

What is perfection?  Have you ever researched its meaning?  For a word that creates such a challenge for people and can ruin lives, it isn’t very perfect! Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia defines it as, “broadly, a state of completeness and flawlessness.”  It then goes on to discuss its earliest known definition, which comes from Aristotle and his book Delta of the Metaphysics.  Aristotle describes it in “three shades of one meaning:”

1)              Which is complete- which contains all the requisite parts;

2)              Which is good that nothing of the kind could be better;

3)              Which has attained its purpose

It appears that those of you who struggle with the idea of perfection and being perfect only understand perfection in its second shade, “That of which nothing of the kind could be better.” That is a very high standard to hold oneself and everything around you to.  What a highly unrealistic expectation, one that results in negativity and frustration, limiting true success.

“Perfectionism is not a quest for the best. It is a pursuit of the worst in ourselves, the part that tells you that nothing you do will ever be good enough – that you should try again.” – Julia Cameron b. 1948

The term perfectionist has taken on a negative meaning, although, this isn’t necessarily fair.  The reason is related to self-proclaimed perfectionists who use this as an excuse to demand it from themselves and others.  Demanding would be the key word in the previous sentence; to demand is not to allow for flexibility and is to expect.  When perfection is expected and little other options remain, then it becomes unrealistic.  These high expectations and the perception that nothing is good enough results in anger and agitation.  This anger and agitation is taken out on others or internalized towards yourself, most times both.  This is certainly going to create disappointment and frustration.  When one demands, they take a position of authority.  This position of authority is then setting forth a requirement and it is the requirement to do or be perfect.  These requirements, added to the fact that perfection is unrealistic, result in the idea that nothing is good enough.  To believe that nothing is good enough will certainly create anger and frustration, which will be expressed inward as depression or outward as abusive or mean.

“In order to go on living one must try to escape the death involved in perfectionism.”

-Hannah Arendt 1906-1975

Become perfect:

– Decide you have options

– Accept feedback

– Self define perfection

– Choose and use what works!

The original concept of “perfection” and the idea of one always striving for it are realistic and healthy.  To strive for this concept is to seek and desire to be complete, purposeful, and the best of it’s kind.   However, as a desire it allows those who seek it the freedom to come close and not give up.  To understand perfection based on this understanding of its meaning would be to understand that there is a no failure only feedback, to think of what you want and the fact that you have a choice over how you think, act, and feel about your life and those around you.  These simple ideas, no failure only feedback, thinking about what you want, having a choice over your thoughts, actions, and feelings, combined with the fact that perfection is based on perception and it is meant to be pursued you realize perfection, as you know it, is a myth!  It is impossible to even achieve anything of which nothing of the kind could be better, because this is a matter of opinion.  If you want to value yourself and others based on your idea of perfection, then do so understanding that it is completely subjective.  You will also want to understand that if you plan to value yourself based on another’s standard of perfection, then you’re going to need to know what their definition of perfection is.

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Interview with Robert Boich, author of EXCUSE ME, YOUR LIFE IS WAITING!

Robert Boich, the author of Excuse Me, Your Life Is Waiting! A Bridge From Addiction to Early Recovery, was born in Phoenix, Arizona. He earned his bachelor’s degree from the University of Colorado, and attended Ohio Northern University where he graduated with a law degree. The author also received his LLM in Taxation from Boston University. The author is currently working on his second book, a novel based on World War One and the Battle of Verdun. He lives in Dublin, Ohio with his wife and children. You can find out more about the author and his book on his website at http://www.rwboich.com/.

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Q: Thank you for this interview, Robert. Can you tell us what your latest book, Excuse Me, Your Life Is Waiting!, is all about?

Excuse Me, Your Life Is Waiting! Was written to help addicts and alcoholics make the transition from active addiction into early recovery. It is a non-fiction narrative based on my own experiences during my first six months in recovery.  I actually started the project at the suggestion of one of my counselors in rehab. He felt that my experiences would be able to help other people out there who are struggling with substance abuse problems.

Q: Is this your first novel?  If not, how has writing this novel different from writing your first?

Yes, it is.

Q. How difficult was it writing your book? Did you ever experience writer’s block, and if so, what did you do?

It was actually a pretty smooth process. Almost everything in the book is based on entries and observations from my journaling. I kept a very detailed record of my early days in sobriety. All I really had to do was to expand on certain points and reorganize some of the information into a smooth chronological sequence.

Q: How have your fans embraced your latest novel?  Do you have any funny or unusual experiences to share?

I have received a lot of encouraging feedback from fans. I think one of the big reasons for this is that all addicts and alcoholics share so many common issues and qualities. All alcoholics and addicts have some funny and unusual experiences that we have been involved in, but I don’t want to discuss those for the simple reason that I don’t want to give the impression that I am glorifying any of my past substance abuse.

Q: What is your daily writing routine?

I try and get up early. I tend to be most productive in the morning before my wife and kids are up and about. After the family is up and the phone starts ringing I can work on research and marketing projects: things that don’t take as much focus.

Q: When you put the pen or mouse down, what do you do to relax?

Nothing really. If I’ve been up since an extremely early hour, say four or five in the morning, I might stretch out and watch some television. I have a daily ritual or recording several hours of shows from the History Channel, or Discovery channel, stuff like that.

Q: What book changed your life?

That’s a very difficult question, one to which I can’t offer up a specific example. I will say that I always enjoyed reading something that was entertaining as well as educational; stuff like James Michener, Tom Clancy, and Stephen Ambrose have always appealed to me.

Q: If someone were to write a book on your life, what would the title be?

The Man Who Had It All, Then Pissed It Away, Yet Somehow Managed To Get It Back Again, would be a candidate, even though it’s a little wordy.

Q: Finish this sentence: “The one thing that I wish people would understand about me is…”

I’m trying to do the best I can. I have a lot of flaws; I think that we all do. I know I will never be perfect, but as long as I am trying my best to do the next right thing than at least I can be satisfied with myself.

Thank you for this interview Robert.  I wish you much success on your latest release, Excuse Me, Your Life Is Waiting!!

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Maggie Rose Crane Week Continues: Self-Improvement – Who Needs It?

I hope you enjoyed Maggie Rose Crane’s interview on Monday. I’m happy to say she’s back with a great guest post for us on the subject of self-improvement!

Everyone wants to improve themselves whether it be for themselves, their business, or their career. Maggie Rose Crane gives us another viewpoint on self-improvement that I believe you will enjoy. Maggie will be stopping by periodically over the day so if you have any questions you’d like her to answer for you, leave your question in the comment section below. Welcome Maggie!

Self-Improvement – Who Needs It?

by Maggie Rose Crane, author of Amazing Grays: A Woman’s Guide to Making the Next 50 the Best 50

maggie_crane_1_smAs we age and cross over into new possibilities, many midlife women are beginning to understand that our attempts at “self-improvement” are futile. Efforts to improve ourselves often have the opposite effect and keep us spinning our wheels in a quagmire of self-hate. Rather than spend our precious energy trying to “improve” ourselves, we are learning to express the authentic self that is already there – intact, whole, capable, intelligent and wise.

How much of our precious life energy is squandered because we believe the stories we tell ourselves about our supposed inadequacies? You’re not good enough. You’re a failure. You never do it right. We are repeatedly told by our inner voices that we are not meeting a certain standard; that we’d better try harder. So, we do. We try and try to do all the things that society says will make us better, acceptable, and worthy, and yet our inner voices continue to tell us that we’re still not good enough.

amazing-graysIf you’ve found yourself trudging away on the treadmill of self-improvement, it might serve you to ask which “self” you are trying to improve. The ego self? The product of years of faulty programming?

The underlying assumption of self-improvement is that there is something wrong with us that needs fixing! Who said so? Our past programming. (Not a reputable source.) The chatter in our heads would have us believe there is always something wrong (with us, others, the world) and that there is never enough (love, money, time, resources).

Well, here’s a radical idea. What if there is no self to improve? If you look at who you really are – the true, authentic you – you’ll see that you’re not defective or broken, and you never were. There are wounded aspects of our selves that need to be embraced and accepted, and there’s the chatter of our conditioning.

That’s it.

Once you silence all the inner voices that loudly proclaim your inadequacy, who is left?

In the stillness, you will know.

You can visit Maggie Rose Crane’s website at www.maggiecrane.com. Stay tuned tomorrow for my review of her book, Amazing Grays: A Woman’s Guide to Making the Next 50 the Best 50!

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