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How to Get Published by Stephan Labossiere

How to Get Published is a continuing feature at As the Pages Turn where we ask authors to tell us their publishing stories. Was it a rocky road or did it come easy for them? Did they start with an agent and get a NY publisher interested in their book or did they self-publish? What words of wisdom do they have for all of us who would like to be published one day?

Today’s guest is Stephan Labossiere, author of the relationships book, How To Get a Married Woman To Have Sex With You…If You’re Her Husband (Firefly Publishing).

How I Got My Book Published

By Stephan Labossiere

When I finally decided to go forth with writing my book How To Get A Married Woman To Have Sex With You…If You’re Her Husband, I knew I had to figure out which route I would take to get published. I immediately started looking into self publishing because I thought this would be the most realistic route to take. I did research on the internet to find the best deal and a reputable company. There were many options and I just needed to pray about which one to go with.

One day I felt the need to see what the internet had to say about trying to get a publisher. This is when I learned about sending out query letters. I found many sites with large directories of literary agents available. They provide useful information that help narrow your search for the right person to query. At this point I figured I have nothing to lose. So I sent out 8 to 10 queries and waited to see if anyone bites. Worst case scenario I will just go back to the self publishing route that I originally intended to do. I received about 4 responses, and though some had encouraging things to say, nobody was prepared to take on my book. While waiting for more responses (which I never did receive) I was told by a friend about a publishing company owned by an old acquaintance. So I sent my query to Firefly Publishing, and they loved the idea. I am grateful for being able to get my book published but I am just as grateful to have gone through the process of exploring my options. It allowed me to learn a lot and be much better equipped for future projects.

Stephan Labossiere is a man on a mission to help men and women experience more successful and authentic relationships. He knows firsthand how challenging the male and female dynamic can be and strives to bridge the gap of communication between the sexes. The only male in a family of three older sisters, one of whom is his twin, Stephan has learned early on to take the time to understand and embrace the inner workings of a woman’s mind.

Stephan grew up in Miami, Fl before moving to and settling in Atlanta, Ga. He has worked as an entrepreneur for the past ten years and, most recently, has served as a Life Coach as well as a relationship consultant to married and dating couples. In addition, Stephan is a motivational speaker conducting speaking engagements with topics such as personal and spiritual growth, financial stability and relationships. How To Get A Married Woman To Have Sex With You…If You’re Her Husband is his first book in a series aimed to break down the barriers and turn the battle of the sexes into nothing more than a pillow fight with a mutually pleasing ending.

You can visit Stephan Labossiere’s website at www.StephanL.com or his blog at http://stephanl03.blogspot.com/.  Connect with him at Twitter at http://www.twitter.com/ManLikeNoOtha and Facebook at http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=527211929.

Giveaways, Contests & Prizes!

In celebration of Stephan Labossiere’s new release, he will be appearing at  Pump Up Your Book’s 1st Annual Holiday Extravaganza Facebook Party on December 16.  More than 50 books, gifts and cash awards will be given away including a paperback copy of of How to Get a Married Woman to Have Sex With You…If You’re Her Husband!  Visit the official party page here!

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Special Guest Feature: Bell and Banjos by Gary Morgenstein

Bell and Banjos by Gary Morgenstein

Author of the relationship book,

How to Find a Woman…Or Not

Gary Morgenstein’s novels include Loving Rabbi Thalia Kleinman, about a divorced man who falls in love with a beautiful woman rabbi; Jesse’s Girl, a powerful story about a father’s search for his adopted teenage son, and Take Me Out to the Ballgame, a political baseball thriller, all available on Amazon, as well as the baseball Rocky The Man Who Wanted to Play Center Field for the New York Yankees. His prophetic play Ponzi Man played to sell-out crowds at the New York Fringe Festival. He lives in Brooklyn, New York, surrounded by lots of books and rock and roll CDs.

I remember schlepping down on Amtrak to meet a woman in Princeton, New Jersey. Date number two. Date number one had been for coffee at the Warwick Hotel on Manhattan’s Sixth Avenue. This was a Jdate date. She actually looked like her picture, an attorney, now into running her own web-based food service. Mid-40s, nice, smart, far as I know, no prison record.

So for dinner on a Saturday night I take the subway from Brooklyn into Manhattan, to Penn Station (on a good day about a 50 minute ride). Then Amtrak to Princeton. 90 minutes one way. My iPod was powered up with Aerosmith. I call my best friend Sid and he asks, What are you doing making a four-hour round trip, plus you know you will get stuck with the dinner bill?

Because I feel 19 again when I do this. Because I am in my 50s now and a lot more is behind than in front. Because when I date, there is that magical possibility beyond why do I have a zit on my cheek, did I wear too much cologne, where did I get all the nose hairs, do I have my Viagra/condom combo in the wallet in case.

Because maybe she will hold my hand. You appreciate that a lot more at 50 than 20. Three hour dinner, bill of $140 and I get an email the next day, You are charming and cute and intelligent and good fun, but I think we live too far apart for this to work.

And um, when you told me to come down for a four friggin” hour round trip, you didn’t know that?

It is madness dating at any age, I know.

That said, I want to find a woman to share my life with again. One failure does not a life make. I want bells and banjos, walks on the beach, Netflix nights, Thai take-out, apple picking, Jersey shore, hand holding and all that intimate stuff. I figured women want the same thing. I figured that with all the single women in New York, deduct the gay guys, the faithful married guys, the semi-faithful married guys, it was really me competing against a lot of hot firefighters and they worked nights mostly.

Where to go for the honeymoon might be the biggest challenge.

2, 345,905 dates later, oh boy was I wrong.

That’s what my book is about. For guys, whether you’re 25 or 55, who want to find a woman. For women, because if we don’t have a dialogue into what we really think and want, we will never reach each other. To share my crazy and funny and painful experiences and to give you dos and don’ts and why nots. Guiding and shaping your romantic pursuits aided by “spinning” techniques I developed through my years as a public relations executive.

From online dating to public transportation, the myth of metrosexuality, the mystery of younger women, grooming/clothes/smelling right, good and bad convos, what did they actually mean when they said that and why talking on the phone after a first date is a bad idea, hitting on girls walking their dogs, airport lounges, yoga class, alienating helpful friends, risking job security over a pair of pretty brown eyes, I will help you find someone to share a movie and take away on a Saturday night.

Or your life.

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