Author: Kandy Siahaya
Title: Making Light of Being Heavy
Paperback: 90 pages
Publisher: Aardvark Publishing
Genre: Humor, Nonfiction
Purchase at author’s website here.
About the Book:
These days everyone has a society-driven mindset and totally forget to laugh, especially at themselves. This may be cliche but Kandy truly believes that laughter is the best medicine. Period. Over the years as a person blessed with the fat gene, Kandy has been in many situations where if she could not find humor she probably would end up on the couch in the psychiatrist’s office. This book is about as politically incorrect as it gets for such a subject but it is also based on reality. This is a reality that many women have just like Kandy, but do not think they can (or should) at times just laugh about it.
Kandy’s intention when she started writing this book was to hopefully give insight to many who could never relate but at the same time perhaps provide a different perspective to women just like her. It is a point of view that has given her the strength to live her life happily and project these feelings onto everyone she comes in contact with. She has a great sense of humor and a quick with and guarantees you will be laughing (and thinking) with each chapter of Making Light of Being Heavy.
Kandy Siahaya is like a breath of fresh air. When Tracee Gleichner asked me to review this book, I knew I was in for a treat. Kandy opens up our eyes to the fact that heavy people are people, too, and if you can’t laugh at the situation, you’re going down the wrong path.
“I love life and I love to eat” is one of the frank comments she makes about her experiences being overweight and wouldn’t we all love to be able to say that if we’re fighting the battle of the bulge?
Kandy tried the Scarsdale diet in high school and lost 17 pounds, but still, she didn’t see it as a realistic way to eat on an every day diet. “On an every day basis,” she says, “people do have to have a Big Mac.”
Come on, people, you know she’s right! At least a few fries?
What I loved about this book is Kandy’s sense of humor. She touched on things such as:
- getting a ticket for wearing no seat belt because she couldn’t fit into one
- fitting into booths at restaurants
- fitting into plastic chairs at special events
- how public restrooms, plane bathrooms and cruise ship bathrooms can be so heavy people unfriendly
- getting stuck in those little turnstiles they have at amusement parks
Kandy has accepted her fate – she’s overweight and still loves life. “I would rather know that I have lived happily,” she says, “rather than lived on edge constantly trying to be politically correct just because. If you mess up one day, just start over the next and keep moving.”
Kandy debunks such myths as:
- If fat people really wanted to lose fat, they could.
- All fat people are overeaters.
- It is not healthy to be fat.
Wowzers. Bottom line? You are what you are if you are happy. As Kandy says in her final chapter, “Once we let go of unrealistic expectations and just get fixated on being happy things will fall into place.”
Although Making Light of Being Heavy is a humorous take on being overweight, it is also a serious look at the misconceptions people have about people who are overweight and helps to clear them up. This isn’t a rant book; this is a book that is a fact of life for overweight people everywhere. I’m so glad there’s a book like this out there and so proud that Kandy has the chutzpa to come out and tell us like it really is.