Sarah Tate is a single mother living and working in Switzerland. She arrived in Switzerland ten years ago and apart from a brief stay in France, has remained ever since, as Switzerland has become her adopted homeland.
Sarah has three young kids, who take up most of her time, but she still managed to find time to write her first book ‘Web of Lies – My life with a Narcissist’. The book is an auto-biographical novel which describes in graphic details, the ups and downs of life with a person who suffers from (amongst other things) Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
Web of Lies takes the reader on an emotional journey and gives a deep insight into what it’s like to be sucked into the world of a disordered individual, and more importantly, how to escape with your sanity intact.
Her second book, Renaissance – A Journal of Discovery, is the sequel to Web of Lies. It describes the road to recovery from narcissistic abuse, and charts the progress of Sarah and her children as they rebuild their lives following the breakup of the family, and slowly come to terms with the financial and emotional devastation caused by Sarah’s ex.
Sarah has discovered a passion for writing, and is about to embark upon her first novel, a psychological thriller.
You can visit Sarah’s website at www.sarahtateauthor.com and her blog at www.singlemumsal.blogspot.com. Connect with Sarah at Twitter at www.twitter.com/SarahTateAuthor or Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/pages/Sarah-Tate-Author/358586909900.
About Web of Lies
Web of Lies takes you on an emotional roller-coaster, experienced through the eyes of Sarah Tate, an intelligent, young newcomer to Switzerland who is swept off her feet by an older, more experienced company manager. Within weeks of their meeting, Bill impresses her with a courtship vastly unusual in modern times. He lures Sarah with his intellect along with numerous gifts, expensive restaurants, and trips to luxury hotels. Sarah, who is searching for not only love but security, quickly finds herself falling for the worldly but sensitive and caring man Bill represents himself to be. In Web of Lies, she describes the highs and the lows of what it is like to be involved with a person with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, how to come to terms with the abuse, and most importantly, how to escape.
Bill, who is seventeen years older than Sarah, has led what she finds at first to be a fascinating life. Married twice before, he has been recently widowed, after his second wife fell into depression and took her own life. Within months of their first meeting, Bill has proposed to Sarah, and they are planning a lavish wedding and exciting new life together. However, Sarah quickly starts to feel there may be more to Bill than meets the eye.
Sarah battles to keep the marriage on track, but is frustrated by Bill’s lackadaisical attitude towards work, and his constant bragging about how he’s going to make millions via various entrepreneurial schemes which never materialize.
Sarah eventually begins to wake up to Bill’s lies and schemes, but not before she discovers his dark side….
As the marriage ends, Sarah battles serious clinical depression in order to cope with the destructive relationship with Bill.
Sarah realizes finally that she must break the pattern of abuse in order to escape with her sanity intact. Mindful of protecting her children from him, she eventually stands up to Bill for the final time, and is left at the end to carve a new life. She is in debt and alone, but thankfully free from Bill’s negative and unhealthy influence.
Giveaways, Contests & Prizes!
In celebration of Sarah Tate’s new release, he will be appearing at Pump Up Your Book’s 1st Annual Holiday Extravaganza Facebook Party on December 16. More than 50 books, gifts and cash awards will be given away including an an e-copy of her book, Web of Lies! Visit the official party page here!
Q: Thank you for this interview, Sarah. Can you tell us what your latest book, Web of Lies – My Life with a Narcissist, is all about?
Web of Lies is an auto-biographical novel. It tells the story of a young woman, who is swept off her feet by an older, more experienced company manager, and how she falls head of heels in love with him. After they are married and begin a family, the cracks begin to appear in the relationship, and the narcissistic personality traits of the husband are revealed. Soon, her world is turned upside down as she finds herself literally trapped in a spider’s web of deceit and lies. Life goes from bad to worse, as the husband creates more and more financial and emotional turmoil for the family. Things seems impossible until she finally sees him for what he really is, and gathers all her strength to make the break from the cycle of destruction in which she is caught.
Q: How did you come up with the idea for your book?
There are a lot of ‘self-help’ types books out there which deal with toxic relationships and how to recognize the traits of a disordered personality. But there are not a lot of ‘real life case histories’ which ordinary people can just pick up and read as though they were a novel, yet still learn to spot the red flags in these relationships. I wanted to write a gripping novel which would also educate people about the true nature of narcissists and psychopaths.
Q: What kind of research did you do before and during the writing of your book?
Obviously, I spent a great deal of time researching the personality disorders described in the book, and also talking to other women /men who had lived through a similar experience. Once the book was written I sent it to a very well-known UK Forensic Psychologist, Dr David Holmes, to get his opinion on the book and provide a comment which would help the reader understand the condition even more, by reading a professional opinion of the book.
Q: If a reader can come away from reading your book with one valuable message, what would that be?
That this kind of thing can happen to anybody. That it’s easy for the narcissist/psychopath to draw you in and make you believe his world is real, and moreover, that you are NOT going crazy, and there is a way to get away from the spiders web.
Q: Can you give us a short excerpt?
“I was fascinated, spellbound. This man had led a full and colourful life. He was well-travelled, well-versed, and so very experienced. Not only that, but he was clearly a successful businessman, who had ‘retired’ to his position in the company where we worked, in order to ‘kick back and enjoy life’ a little more. I wondered what on earth it was that Bill could possible find interesting about little old me. Here I was, just twenty-nine, and with no significant story to tell, and yet he seemed in awe of me. The perfect gentleman, he appeared genuinely interested in everything I had to say. He paid me compliments, held open doors, and treated me with kindness and respect. As the evening wore on, I was becoming more and more drunk, and I was having an absolutely fantastic time. It certainly seemed as though Bill was too, because when it came time to leave the club, it was clear that neither of us wanted to leave the other’s company just yet.
“Why don’t we go back to mine?” he suggested.
“I don’t know about you, but I’m starving, and I think we both need some food to help mop up all this wine!”
I had to agree. Once out in the fresh air I was staggering somewhat. Not really a good look when you’re on a first date with somebody, but I felt so completely comfortable in his company by now, it really didn’t seem to matter. I gladly accepted his invitation, comfortable that he really was a perfect gentleman, and that we were going to become the best of friends. That was the start of the weekend that would change the course of my entire life.”
Q: In your own experience, is it hard to get a nonfiction book published today? How did you do it?
Yes, it’s incredibly hard if you go down the traditional publishing route. These days, if you’re not already known in the public arena, it’s virtually impossible to get an Agent or a Publisher to take an interest in your story.
After a long and drawn out process of failed attempts, and a very dodgy publishing deal offer, which would have seen me relinquish all rights over my book, I decided to educate myself about the self-publishing process and go it alone. I got some expert advice from people within the industry and that helped me greatly. I prefer the control I have now the book is self-published.
Q: What’s a typical day like for you?
Hectic! I’m up at 05.45, drop my kids off with the child-minder at seven, then go to work. I work in an office all day, then at 16.00 I pick the kids up, we go home, they do homework and I cook. By 8pm they go to bed and it’s then that I get time to sit at my computer and do publicity work on my books, or write.
Q: What’s next for you?
Lots more promotion of Web of Lies, plus its sequel, Renaissance. I’m also planning on writing my first novel (a psychological thriller) during 2012.
Thank you so much for this interview, Sarah. We wish you much success!