Kevin Burk says if you don’t feel angry, you can’t feel happy

Kevin B. Burk has been helping people around the world to improve their lives and relationships since 1996 through his astrological counseling and relationship coaching practice. His humor, wisdom and compassion are always present, in his books (ten so far, including Astrology: Understanding the Birth Chart, The Relationship Handbook: How to Understand and Improve Every Relationship in Your Life, and his newest book, Anger Mastery: Get Angry, Get Happy), his classes and workshops, and his interactions with his clients and students. Kevin’s focus is always on the practical, exploring how we can actually use astrology and spiritual practice on a daily basis to transform our lives.

In the astrology world, he is best known for making Classical Astrology accessible to everyone, taking complex and abstract concepts and showing how they can be used to create concrete, specific and practical interpretations. Kevin’s website, The Real Astrology with Kevin B. Burk is one of the premiere astrology resources on the Internet. His book, Astrology: Understanding the Birth Chart is a textbook used at Kepler University in their Undergraduate Astrology Degree program, and has been translated into Russian, and is currently being translated into Bulgarian. Kevin’s articles have appeared in The Mountain Astrologer, the Australian publication,Well Being Astrology, and in Llewellyn’s Moon Sign books.

In the non-astrology world, Kevin is best known for his unique approach to understanding and improving all human relationships through The Relationship Handbook andThe Relationship Workshops.

Kevin has released a series of DVDs of his Law of Attraction workshops: the self-contained Prosperity & The Law of Attraction, and Astrology & The Law of Attraction, a series of 7 DVDs recorded live in Houston, TX at a weekend workshop for the Gulf Coast Chapter of NCGR.

Kevin has developed a revolutionary program for spiritual growth called Archetypal Astrology: The Hero’s Journey. This intensive program guides participants through the process of meeting and moving into Right Relationship with each of the seven Astrological Archetypes (you may know them as the seven personal planets).

Kevin is currently synthesizing astrology and spirituality into his next series of books: Astrology & The Law of Attraction, Prosperity & The Law of Attraction andRelationships & The Law of Attraction.

Q: Thank you for this interview, Kevin. Can you tell us what your latest book, Anger Mastery: Get Angry, Get Happy, is all about?

Certainly. It’s a tale of two star-crossed lovers, separated by wealth and class, who have a chance meeting and a tragic romance aboard a doomed luxury liner.

No, wait…that’s the plot of Titanic. Sorry about that.

Surprisingly, Anger Mastery: Get Angry, Get Happy is about how you can use the energy of anger to become completely happy. I call it a handbook on how to get out of Victim Consciousness.

Anger is a tremendously valuable source of energy. It’s like fire: if you don’t know how to control it, it’s dangerous and destructive; however, when you master it, your anger can help you to get everything that you want.

What few people understand is that if you don’t feel angry, you can’t feel happy. People that never get angry haven’t mastered their anger: they’ve turned down the volume on their feelings. This is understandable. Most people appreciate that acting from anger is never the answer, but because they don’t know how to use the energy of their anger in constructive ways, they learn how to suppress it. The problem is that you can’t just suppress the negative feelings. Turning down the volume doesn’t stop the pain; it just lets you ignore it, and while you’re ignoring it, things continue to get worse.

When you follow the three-phase Anger Mastery Process, you learn how to take back your power, stop being a victim, and use the energy of your anger in constructive, positive ways that help you to become truly, completely happy.

Q: How did you come up with the idea for your book?

Americans are angry. The amount of anger in this country today is unprecedented. The most visible way that it was manifesting at the time I was writing Anger Mastery, was through the Tea Party. Whatever your opinions of the Tea Party’s agenda, or of the Americans who have chosen to participate in this movement, what fuels the Tea Party is anger. It doesn’t matter what the members of the Tea Party think they’re angry about. All that matters is that because the Tea Party operates entirely from the consciousness of Anger, they will never improve any of the conditions they’re fighting to change; in fact, they will only succeed in making them worse.

A more recent expression of the level of anger in this country is the “Occupy” movement. Because this movement doesn’t have a set agenda, it hasn’t yet been co-opted; however, it’s no longer news, either.

I look at the political landscape, and see an unprecedented lack of civility, fueled by anger.

As much despair (and anger) as I felt about the conditions in America, I also had to face up to a difficult truth: None of this was any of my business. I have no interest in politics or government, and I’m not an elected official, so there’s absolutely nothing I can do, personally, to change the tone of the political landscape.

Still, I was inspired to take some kind of action. I just had to find a way to act that came from integrity, and stayed within the limits of “My Business.”

I can’t do anything to get other people to change their behavior; however, I can at least make it possible for others to move out of Victim Consciousness if they choose to do so. One of my particular talents is taking extremely complex, difficult concepts and making them accessible to a much greater audience. So, I wrote Anger Mastery: Get Angry, Get Happy.

Q: What kind of research did you do before and during the writing of your book?

Well, first, I spent almost four years writing a different book.

In the summer of 2006, I had just finished teaching the last series of workshops based on my Relationship books, and I was asking myself, “What’s next?” I decided I wanted to revisit basic astrology and make it even more practical and accessible.

During this time, I was going through intensive training as a spiritual counselor, expanding my counseling practice, and immersing myself in the consciousness research of Dr. David Hawkins. I began to synthesize this material, and spent the next three and a half years writing a new book, Astrology & The Law of Attraction.

Astrology & The Law of Attraction presented a very powerful, practical system of spiritual development that helps people to get from wherever they happen to be right now, to “happy.” The manuscript itself, however, was quite long; it wasn’t a good fit for Hay House at the time, and I decided to set it — and my now former agent — aside.

I realized that the concepts in Astrology & The Law of Attraction were too advanced for most people. What I needed instead was to create a book that was accessible to everyone: a book that could help people to move out of Victim Consciousness, which is the first critical step to becoming happy.

After more than four years of writing, exploring and teaching this material, I was finally comfortable enough to have fun with it, and I was able to complete Anger Mastery in less than two months (if you don’t count the four years of preparation that it took to get to that point).

Although my sense of humor is evident in all of my books, in Anger Mastery, it’s front and center. I decided the best way to get people to look at subjects that might not be comfortable is to make sure they’re laughing out loud while they’re doing it.

Q: If a reader can come away from reading your book with one valuable message, what would that be?

I think the most important message is that happiness does not come from anything in the outside world. Happiness is the result of your level of consciousness (the vibrational frequency of your thoughts). You have the ability to change your consciousness.

Q: Can you give us a short excerpt?

Being Angry vs. Feeling Angry

If you’re not impatient and you’re not hungry, then what you’re experiencing is actual anger. What you do about it depends on whether you are angry or you’re just feeling angry.

When you are angry, you’re in Victim Consciousness. Your dominant vibration calibrates at 150, the level of Anger. When you are angry, your “little r” reality is defined by and limited by Anger. This means that you will always react rather than respond. You will use force, and whatever action you take will make the situation worse.

When you feel angry, you experience the vibration of Anger, but you’re not limited by the consciousness of Anger. Anger is a part of your “little r” reality, but it doesn’t define it. You can feel angry without being pulled into Victim Consciousness, and this gives you the ability to respond (using power) rather than to react (using force).

The difference between being angry and feeling angry is Safety. When you practice the Present Moment Awareness Safety Meditation, you will gradually restore the balance in your Safety Need Account. The experience of Safety calibrates at 250 (the level of Neutrality). When you are able to maintain at least this level of consciousness, you can feel angry without also feeling unsafe. Anger will no longer automatically drain your Safety Need Account and catapult you into the heart of Victim Consciousness.

Please remember, this is a process, it’s not an event. Getting to the point that you truly feel Safe is a matter of months, not days. Even so, all you have to do is be willing to invest 20 minutes of your time and listen to the Present Moment Awareness Safety Meditation twice a day. If you do this consistently, you will reach the stage when you can begin to master your anger. Once you are able to feel angry without feeling unsafe, you can harness the energy of your anger to help you to get happy. (You’ll learn how to do this in Phase 3.)

Q: In your own experience, is it hard to get a nonfiction book published today?  How did you do it?

I published it myself, though my own imprint, Serendipity Press. The book is printed on-demand, through Lightning Source. I have worldwide distribution, and a very low cost per book for printing. I’ve been working with them for almost 10 years now, and I couldn’t be happier. Having a physical presence in brick and mortar bookstores is no longer critical when publishing a book, since the majority of book sales occur online. Even if I went with a traditional publisher, I’d still have to do most of the marketing and publicity on my own. This way, I get to keep all of the profits, too.

Q: What’s a typical day like for you?

I always start the day with my morning Spiritual Practice, which varies, depending on which Spiritual Practices I have currently assigned to my clients and students. I’m usually at my computer four or five hours a day, but I could be writing, animating, designing, or teaching, depending on the day and the deadline. And I do generally make it to the gym at least five times a week, because it’s one of the fundamental tools for mastering anger.

Q: What’s next for you?

I’m revisiting Astrology & The Law of Attraction, and splitting it into two different books. One book will be for people who would like to learn how to speak the language of astrology. The other book, Archetypal Astrology: The Hero’s Journey, will be for people who have mastered their anger, and are ready for a deeper, more intense spiritual process.

Thank you so much for this interview, Kevin.  We wish you much success!

You can visit Kevin’s website at www.GetAngryGetHappy.com.

To get your paperback copy of  ANGER MASTERY by Kevin Burk: http://www.amazon.com/Anger-Mastery-Kevin-B-Burk/dp/0975968238

To purchase a copy of ANGER MASTERY at Barnes & Noble: http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/anger-mastery-kevin-b-burk/1104012568

Buy the book directly from the author at www.GetAngryGetHappy.com

Like Kevin Burk on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AngerMastery

 

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